Your response in these situations can provide a healing salve for your child’s wounds or deepen the pain. When you let them know that you value and love them regardless of what has happened, you provide comfort. Knowing they always have your love is a powerful antidote.
Threatening To Remove Connection
Everyone has a deep need for connection with others. When children want to hurt others, one way they do it is by threatening to remove connection.
Words can hurt. This is especially true when they are words of rejection. Even young children know the power of saying things like:
- "I'm not your friend anymore."
- "I don't want to play with you."
- "You're not invited to my birthday party!"
- "I hate you!"
Kids need lots of practice developing their interpersonal skills. When you hear kids saying something unkind, help them find healthier ways to express their emotions.
Experiencing a Crushing Blow
Trying out for a team takes courage. Unless your child is guaranteed to make the team, there is the risk of failure. Responding when your child makes the team is easy. The difficult part is how you respond when your child does not make the team.
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