Do your children have challenging behaviors that keep reoccurring? If so, you probably have tried numerous things that haven't worked: time outs, grounding, withholding privileges, taking away toys, taking away the computer, TV or cellphone, and talking about the problem. Nothing has helped!
By definition, challenging behavior is difficult to solve. The reason nothing has worked is because the underlying cause of the problem has not been addressed. The trick is figuring out the root cause of the problem behavior.
Three Approaches to Solving Problem Behavior
Dr. Ross Greene has worked extensively with kids who are acting out at home and school. Over the years he has developed an approach that leads to success with most of these kids.
He discusses three options to misbehavior in his book Raising Human Beings. He refers to these options as Plan A, Plan B and Plan C.
Plan A – Announcing the Solution
You solve the problem by letting your child know what is going to happen. You make the decision based on your expertise without your child’s input. Greene explains “Plan A involves solving a problem unilaterally, and it’s very popular. When you solve a problem using Plan A, you are the one deciding the solution to a given unsolved problem, and you’re imposing that solution on your child.”
For example, you might say things like:
(finish reading article on PricelessParenting.com)
Resolving Conflicts Using Collaborative & Proactive Solutions
Subscribe to: Post Comments (Atom)
Stressed Kids? Finding Real Relief
What behavior lets you know your kids are under stress? Tantrums? Frustrated outbursts? Angry yelling? Running to their room and slammi...
You dream of your children growing up and making a positive impact on the world. The last thing you want is for your child to be responsible...
When your kids misbehave, how do you usually feel? Most parents report feeling angry, frustrated or embarrassed. When you're feeling ...
You are likely doing an excellent job teaching your kids to keep themselves physically healthy. You’ve taught them to wash their hands ...
Post a Comment