Ben returned to live at home after completing his 4-year college degree. He promised his parents he would look for a job. When Ben didn’t seem to be making much progress in actually searching for a job, his mom set up an appointment for him with a job coach.
The job coach gave Ben a number of assignments to complete before the initial meeting. Ben came to the meeting but hadn’t completed any of the homework. Eventually he explained to the job coach that he really liked just living at home – his mom did the laundry, cooked delicious meals and he had plenty of time for video games and TV.
Setting limits with adult children isn’t easy but it is necessary. If you are struggling to set limits with your adult children, there are books on parenting adult children that you may find helpful.