He told her many things like
- “If you don’t put on sunscreen, you’re not going swimming.”
- “Don’t splash anyone. People don’t like to be splashed.”
- “If you run, you might slip and get hurt.”
The problem with these types of warnings is that the unspoken message is “I don’t trust you to know how to behave so I’m telling you.” This is not a message we want to be giving our children!
It’s easy to get in the habit of trying to protect our children from any and all mistakes. However, they’ll do better if we can show confidence in their ability to make good choices.