A dad was picking his preschool son up after school. He spent 15 minutes chasing his son and a friend around. Dad would ROAR; the boys would giggle and run away. They were having fun.
A little girl in the same room was crying and clinging to her mom’s leg every time the dad ROARED. Her mother was engaged in conversation with another mother and wasn’t paying attention to her daughter’s reaction.
The dad was having so much fun that he didn’t notice that this was upsetting this little girl. Her mom was so busy she also didn’t notice. When adults ignore a child in distress, the child learns her feelings aren’t very important … not the message we want to give!