“I can’t do it.”
“I don’t want to do that.”
“Why do I have to do this?”
“This is so hard.”
This complaining would go on for 10-15 minutes and was driving her mom nuts! In situations like these, it is helpful if parents can show empathy and then leave the child to handle it:
- Say something like “I hear your frustration.” and then go to another room to do your own work (anywhere away from her so she doesn’t have you as an audience).
- If you can’t leave the room for some reason, use the same repetitive response for each complaint – “Probably so”, “Hmmm ….”, “It is tough.”